The sad state of the dating game is a topic that is a very frequent and important one among some single women who are in their late 20's /early 30's. Some are ready to settle down,get married and have a few kids. However, most may find themselves settling with less than stellar mates to join the wives club. There was a comment that one of my acquaintances on Facebook made that inspired this blog it went something along the lines of "men of this generation suck no job,home,car,no ambition, whole bunch of kids and don't believes in dating". Now ever since I have broken up with my sons father, I have been involved in 3 situationships. Partially because I was not ready to get back into the dating game (all men were someone that I was involved with before). Now that I am ready to start dating, I find that I am giving people a chance and if they don't want to further things then ----> . I also find that once certain activities have been done, its hard to go back and do things the right way; and to expect someone who didn't have to do much to get much to do more aint gonna help matters any. It is best to let all old situations go and start fresh.
I find this song from Jill Scott to be a great one for the stage that I have come to in my life. I have been involved with men who tell me lots of things such as they want to marry me, father my current and future children,and how much I mean to them, but you cant play a playa (yes I said that old saying). If you are showing me one hand and hiding the other, then I have no choice to go by what I see.I feel like some men only make statements like those to see how much they can get out of you. Saying crap like that to me wont get you very far. I cant speak for the men,maybe they want to play around a bit before settling down or maybe they are saying what they think I want to hear to try to string me along until they find someone who they deem to be "better" (HA). But once I want something and you aint giving it to me, I am moving on and you aint getting a third chance. I know things can get lonely especially seeing everyone getting happily married, but if you have patience GOD will bring your mate when it is time and not a moment before. I feel like once I am ready to let the past go and enjoy my days of being single He will come. The problem lies with being on social media the majority of the time and not enjoying yourself out in the world and meeting new people. Trust me ladies there are more single women who feel the same way you do. And when you go out, don't look for someone to be with let him come to you. Besides I know tons of unhappily married people, marriage is tough and marrying someone when they aren't ready or someone who is not right for you can lead to an unhappy life. Well drop your comments below and see ya in the next post.
